Adjusting the action (help!)

Ugh when I played on Syn’s guitar at a show, his action was RIDICULOUS! I don’t know if the neck got all wonky from so many people playing it and through traveling, but I couldn’t play for crap on his setup, so I know how you feel! Sometimes it’s ideal to have a higher action because for example, on my ESP, the action came naturally lower than I’m use to, and when I bend the high E string, it’s difficult to avoiding accidentally catching the B string while I’m at it. The way I adjusted my Schecter (I put 11’s on that beast and it bowed the neck pretty badly to where it took me FOREVER to “set it straight”), was that I adjusted it until there was no string contact with the fret bars when I put my fingers down on the 3rd and 12th fret, and the strings were measurably close to the fret bars still (I still don’t know what those damn things are called!) If you have small hands or weaker hands, playing with high action is a nightmare. Simply ask your husband to adjust it to YOUR standards, as it’s not his guitar, nor his hands